Today I shared this link on Instagram and out through other Social Media channels. A few of you liked it and it was shared a few times which told me that it generally resonated throughout the ranks of my friends and followers.
I also shared this song as a prelude to things coming. Time to let out all kinds of secrets. A few trials and a little bit more about me that I am certain that by my sharing, you will also feel more inclined to open up for yourself and those around you. Don’t be silly now. There have been no murders, I haven’t changed religions, still very hetero, no more kids on the way, nor secretly created working models of time travel. No, none of those kind of secrets. These are the ones that change lives in a different way. Mostly I’ve realized that starting anew and being transparent not only helps me grow into more of me but helps you and others I work with learn to be more themselves.
I’ve shared things like this before and if you are a close friend or colleague of mine, then you will likely remind me that I am always having this sort of breakthrough-revelation-inspiration-awakening moment to let go of restriction and start again living with more heart, more spirit, more energy, more freedom…more love, joy, abundance, poetry, insight, truth
Has there ever been any point in your life where you found yourself on this path? One where you wanted to branch out, live more fully, let go of what you previously believed and move into something more…well more YOU?
If you have, then you know that not only can you be your toughest critic, even your most challenging adversary but that voice unwonted for change inside of you also has many friends out around you. Yes the collective voice of status quo lives all around you. It does not want change. It helps you refrain from seeking out the dharma of your life, your unique path, your journey to find that eloquent experience that you truly seek to embrace the expression of you. Many of you may never get there unless you can actually break free from the prison of fear of what others think about you.
The game is inside of your own head. This game cages you with fear of rejection, of not being loved, and holds you deceptively and not-so-delicately as you carry on with life wondering when it will change. It won’t change. Nothing will change unless you change. You have to change the way that you think. You have to change what you believe. You have to change the way that you behave. You have to learn that what others think about you has nothing to do with you. You have to break free.
Don Miguel Ruiz, in his most famous and influential book, The Four Agreements, advocates personal freedom and beliefs that we have made with ourselves and others that are creating limitation and unhappiness in our lives. Ultimately, it is about finding one’s own integrity, self-love, and peace by way of absolving oneself from responsibility for the woes of others. The Four Agreements are:
- Be Impeccable With Your Word.
- Don’t Take Anything Personally.
- Don’t Make Assumptions.
- Always Do Your Best.
What the topic I’m focusing on here is the 2nd Agreement: Don’t Take Anything Personally. While the title of this blog post is rather harsh in tone, it could have easily been ‘Don’t Take Anything Personally’ but we all know that the title I chose will get more people to click on it more often then not because of its tone. (Yes folks, that’s how it usually still works. Why did you click on it? Hmmmm)
The truth is that we all have the choice to take something personally or not. Another person’s perception of you may have nothing to do with you at all if you think about it. What will matter is whether or not you will live according to and/or fear what other people think about you. What matters even more than that is what you think about yourself.
And yes, while its true that I do care about your perceptions, thoughts, and feelings, I am learning more and more that ‘what others think about me is none of my business’.
A coaching tip: Get out of that prison of fear of what others think and live in the freedom of what you think about yourself.
Share your secrets, your dreams, your desires, and your loves. They are the very things that will bring you more to life.
That is what Sean Knows.
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